I talked to my dad on the phone today...
I blogged about him a month or so ago about how I need and want him in my life now that he's finally home. We had a good talk for about 20 minutes or so. We're gonna hang out on fathers day. Its time to let go of my fears and move forward with trying to form a bond.
He said he's a sports fanatic and likes the Pittsburg Steelers and the New York Knicks. Maybe I can pick him up a sports hat and a nice fathers day card. We're gonna do lunch, me, him and my daughter.
Looking forward to getting to know him. It'll be the first fathers day I've ever been able to spend with my dad in my life.
WOW
:)
Thursday, June 7, 2012
Take a moment....
Monday was kind of a weird but thoughtful day for me.
What Im about to type will sound kind of random but it has sort of a moral at the end.
It started out a normal day....but later that evening when I got home I was cleaning up and Amari was right beside me and she all of a sudden started screaming and crying and couldnt really breathe. So in my haste trying to figure out what was wrong I noticed she kept holding her nose. She had a BEAD stuck inside her nose, and I dont mean a small bead that goes on the end of your hair I mean a big huge crystal bead that went to one my bracelets that broke. So Im trying not to panic and long story short it took me about 10 minutes, but I got the bead out of her nose. I used a crochet neeedle-the hook part and got it out that way. Now it scared the hell out of me because so many what ifs could have happened but anyway.... (Thats my princess :(
About an hour later I went to go check on my mom. Went In the house, went in her room and her lights were off- called her name, she didnt say anything. I cut the lights on and she was laid on the side of the bed, sweating, shaking, just kind of out of it. So I ran over to her asked her what was wrong, she said she had been throwing up and her feet and hands were shaking, she was hot, dizzy etc. I got her some cold water and made her drink it, put a cool cloth on her forehead, and massaged her feet and hands to get the circulation going. Im in nursing school so I figured she had gone into a diabetic shock. I sat with her til she was feeling better. those 2 incidents really had me feeling like wtf.
About an hour after that one of my guy besties calls and and he told me his father passed away that day. Seems like alot of people close to me have lost family members recently. So when he told me that, and I thought of the 2 scares I had with my daughter and my mom, and some of the things that have happened over the past few months to others.... it made me think.
Its so important to tell the people you care for that you love them.
So I sent texts to my close friends and a few select people I called, just to simply say I love you. I love you holds alot of weight but it has a different feeling to hear someone say it.
Its nice to hear someones voice and everyone texts now a days but how soon we forget what life was like before texting. I think families were closer, relationships were a little different in a good way. I still have a few people that I talk to on the phone often but literally I've been out to dinner with my girls and everyone at some point has their face stuck in their cell phone. Thats a whole nother story but I'll save that for another blog.
The present is a gift and you have to live each day being thankful for waking up. Thats a blessing in itself but we take it for granted. Everyones so busy with their lives, everyones texting, tweeting, working, partying but the little things we sometimes forget. I vow to never forget or never stop doing the little things.. They can be some of lifes best moments.
So take a little time out of your day and let the special people in your life know you love them. It only takes a minute but it means alot.
Until than......
What Im about to type will sound kind of random but it has sort of a moral at the end.
It started out a normal day....but later that evening when I got home I was cleaning up and Amari was right beside me and she all of a sudden started screaming and crying and couldnt really breathe. So in my haste trying to figure out what was wrong I noticed she kept holding her nose. She had a BEAD stuck inside her nose, and I dont mean a small bead that goes on the end of your hair I mean a big huge crystal bead that went to one my bracelets that broke. So Im trying not to panic and long story short it took me about 10 minutes, but I got the bead out of her nose. I used a crochet neeedle-the hook part and got it out that way. Now it scared the hell out of me because so many what ifs could have happened but anyway.... (Thats my princess :(
About an hour later I went to go check on my mom. Went In the house, went in her room and her lights were off- called her name, she didnt say anything. I cut the lights on and she was laid on the side of the bed, sweating, shaking, just kind of out of it. So I ran over to her asked her what was wrong, she said she had been throwing up and her feet and hands were shaking, she was hot, dizzy etc. I got her some cold water and made her drink it, put a cool cloth on her forehead, and massaged her feet and hands to get the circulation going. Im in nursing school so I figured she had gone into a diabetic shock. I sat with her til she was feeling better. those 2 incidents really had me feeling like wtf.
About an hour after that one of my guy besties calls and and he told me his father passed away that day. Seems like alot of people close to me have lost family members recently. So when he told me that, and I thought of the 2 scares I had with my daughter and my mom, and some of the things that have happened over the past few months to others.... it made me think.
Its so important to tell the people you care for that you love them.
So I sent texts to my close friends and a few select people I called, just to simply say I love you. I love you holds alot of weight but it has a different feeling to hear someone say it.
The present is a gift and you have to live each day being thankful for waking up. Thats a blessing in itself but we take it for granted. Everyones so busy with their lives, everyones texting, tweeting, working, partying but the little things we sometimes forget. I vow to never forget or never stop doing the little things.. They can be some of lifes best moments.
So take a little time out of your day and let the special people in your life know you love them. It only takes a minute but it means alot.
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Why nice guys finish last....
I need to let you know why yall finish last and what women (MOST of us) want.
When a woman says she doesnt like a guy thats too nice... the nice guys take that commentary to the extreme. Here's what we want in a nutshell.
There are varying levels of the nice guy but there's a level thats waaaayyyy too much for us and here it is....
THE PUSHOVER- THIS is the worst type of nice guy you can be. He's super nice. He's attractive and well mannered. He wants to see you and be with you everyday. He has no backbone. You ask him what he wants to see at the movies..he says whatever you want to see, you say hey what do you want to do this weekend..he says whatever YOU want to do. He may even tell you "You wear the pants" (true story)
You can do no wrong in his eyes. You get smart with him, he says NOTHING or overly apologizes even when you're in the wrong. He wants to be up under you 24 hours a day 7 days a week with no space. You ask him how your hair looks he'll tell you its AMAZING even if you look like a disaster with 3 different color weaves. He will NEVER tell you NO to anything!!!!! Women dont like yes men. I dont want to know I can ask you to go walk 15 blocks in the snow and get me a waffle and you'll do it. I prefer you say you outta your damn mind. You wont be getting a waffle tonight.
He washes your car twice a week even when its calling for rain. He acts like he really ENOYS shopping with you. He calls you way too much. You cook something that you KNOW isnt good and he'll tell you its the best most tender steak he ever had. You say youre going to the grocery store, he wants to meet you up there and push the cart down aisle 3 with you. You tell him he looks nice, he has no confidence he says oh I dont feel like I look nice or no one as beautiful as you ever told me that. He'll tell you I was intimitaded by you when we first met. Just something dumb. We dont wanna hear that crap. He's scared to kiss you or make the first move. He calls you on every lunch break and sends you text messages at 6:48 am like GOOD MORNING LUV!!!! The day is BEAUTIFUL because you're in it!!! He writes poems and shit. Its just too much.
The type of nice guy women want is a nice guy with a BACKBONE. Women like men with confidence and aggression. And very few men know how to find this balance.
THIS nice guy is stable, he compliments you not too much but enough so that when he says something sweet you actually fkn believe it and it makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. Your dates are romantic but also laid back. He's not gazing in your eyes speaking french but you're laughing and joking and its comfortable. He has a BACKBONE> cant explain how important this is. He will hear you out but if you're in the wrong...this mf will put you in check and let you know. You CANT talk to him anyway and he's honest with you. If you cook some shit that tastes like garbage guess what he's going to tell you. In the bedroom he's not a weak pansy ass. He'll pull your hair and talk dirty in your ear. He might throw you on the bed. (we like shit like this) He wont disrespect you, hit you or call you out of your name but he'll tell you the truth. If you need help he'll help you out. You give him a compliment he may say something like I know Im fine woman. He'll fix shit around the house, he takes the trash out, he'll let you know hey chick you need to get your oil changed. He might wash your car sometimes and he's basically just a stand up guy that knows how to treat a woman. He can meet your parents with ease and not be nervous. And guess what he's not a YES MAN! he will actually tell you NO sometimes!!! You see the drastic difference in the pushover and the confident nice guy? Its HUGE but you still have a nice man.
As long as you test the confident nice guy with a few arguments to make sure he wont call you out of your name and bitch slap you without taking out the trash you probably have a winner. He's a bad mf.
Confidence and a little aggression on a nice man = sexy.
Learn from this and you'll know how to be a nice man without finishing last and wondering why that bad chick stopped answering your calls. Im no expert but I know what women want. So go get that chick you been acting so bitch around. Just man up a little..
Until than....
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